Being proactive in a relationship | How important is it?

I would say I’m a pretty proactive person, most of the time. Doing things without being told, always volunteering myself to be the person who helps.

I find that being able to take stuff off people’s plate brings me joy. It makes me feel like I’m being useful, and helping others relieve their stress.

I try to be the exact same way in a relationship. Offering to take care of things before they happen. Trying to help out my partner in any way that I can without being asked.

So how important is it, to be proactive in a relationship?

Being proactive is important

Turns out, when you are able to relieve some of the stress off of another person, it helps them out quite a bit.

Even if it’s something small like helping them complete a chore, it’s one less thing that they have to deal with.

This is especially the case for those of us in relationships where both people are career-driven and work-oriented.

Not only does it take something off their plate, but it’s almost like a weight being lifted.

Day to day life can become so preoccupied with everything else going on, and sometimes, the littlest things make things all the more difficult.

What does be proactive mean in a relationship?

Everything I’ve said so far, makes it sound like I hate doing little tasks. Or that I just want someone to take care of my chores for me.

It’s not that at all.

I think being proactive in a relationship is a little bit different than everywhere else.

It’s about anticipation.

Understanding your partner enough, where you know how to help them, and you’re willing to do it right away so they don’t have to.

Something simple like filling up their water when they’re busy at work, that’s pretty proactive.

It’s knowing where your partner may not be putting enough attention to, and giving your own attention to tend to it.

I love the idea of proactivity in a relationship.

Why be proactive?

Proactivity in a relationship is like adding salt to food. Once you do, it the flavour comes out.

Similarly, once mutual kindness, respect and care is established from being proactive, the relationship can flourish.

It doesn’t always have to be grand gestures and big gifts.

Sometimes, the small things can matter so much more.

Are you proactive in your relationship?

Let me know in the comments!

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Thank you so much for reading.

Love always,

Alex