What is the next thing? | The stages of your relationship

As we get older, I find that my peers tend to approach relationships differently. Always thinking about the next thing.

They’d think about the next stage in their lives non-stop and dream about how they would spend their future together.

But what if while you’re thinking about the next thing, you’re forgetting about right now?

Here’s what I mean…

The next thing in a relationship

Because we’re so used to progressing everywhere else in life, career, technology, our peers, we can sometimes apply it to relationships.

This means that instead of enjoying where you’re at in your relationship right now, you’re spending time stressing about the next stage.

Well, maybe not necessarily stressing.

But thinking about the next stage.

Whether it’s a house, getting married, living together, getting pets together, having kids, etc.

There are a lot of opportunities for conversation to revolve around a time that’s not happened yet, the future.

While I think it definitely makes sense for two people to plan their future together, but they should be spending even more time on what’s right now.

I think one of the most important things that I’ve learned recently is the significance of right now.

Specifically when it applies to relationships.

Our lives can pass by really quickly if we don’t pay attention and a lot of times, that’s in the details.

The little things and nuances in life. Something like a call or a conversation.

If you don’t make time for it, eventually you might not be able to anymore.

Of course, that’s a drastic example but you get what I mean.

Even in our day-to-day lives it’s important to live presently.

While anticipating and working towards the next thing is important, appreciating what we have can be even better.

It doesn’t always have to be the most extravagant things in life.

Sometimes, it can be the simple little things.

And I think that’s the biggest key to enjoying your time with your partner.

It’s to go and enjoy your time that you’re spending together.

Otherwise, what’s the point?

Are you someone who anticipates the next thing in your relationship?

Let me know in the comments!

Check out the last article about making time for yourself.

You can also check out similar articles in the relationship stuff section.

I also write for Medium and a publication called P.S. I Love You.

Thank you so much for reading.

Love always,

Alex

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