Mindset is everything in a relationship | Changing your mindset

You’ve probably heard here or there about how mindset is everything when it comes to business, or career, or achieving your goals.

But how important is it when it comes to a relationship?

Answer: It’s the same one, mindset is everything.

And most people unfortunately don’t have the best mindset when it comes to relationships. Let me ask you a question, and since you’re the only one reading this right now, you can answer it truthfully.

Do you believe that there is someone who is perfect for you? Or would you not mind settling?

If your answer is settling, then you have to get your mindset checked.

That is a scarcity mindset right there. There aren’t enough good people to go around so you’re going to settle for just okay?

No, that is not how we do things here. What we want, is an abundance mindset when it comes to relationships.

Why an abundance mindset is everything

As you may have seen, in pop culture, we see a lot of negativity in relationships whether it’s from celebrities or just people on twitter.

Why’s that? Well if you approach it like we would with everything else, what you see and what you are exposed to in a regular basis affects how you behave.

In other words, you’re basically what you see.

Yes. Surprise, surprise. Watching people talk about proudly not needing their partner or romanticizing cheating as something forbidden and to be yearned for.

So how common is cheating in relationships? There is a 25% chance of cheating in relationships on average.

That’s one in every four relationships!

But why?

It’s the scarcity mindset. When you feel like you are settling, you care less. You begin to think the relationship isn’t satisfactory and that’s where the idea of cheating or any form of negativity in a relationship comes from.

An abundance mindset is the opposite. It allows you to appreciate your partner for all they do. It puts you in a constant state of learning and a belief that as your relationship matures, the love between you grows deeper.

It’s realizing that in this world of abundance, you were lucky enough to find someone who you can love and appreciate.

Someone who makes you feel glad to wake up everyday and gives you the energy you need to be the best version of yourself you can be.  

So how do we change our mindset towards our partner?

I think the first thing would be to realize that you are someone who deserves more.

If you’re already in a relationship, ask yourself this: Why are you with your partner?

If the reason isn’t leaning towards love, then it’s probably a bad mindset.

Consider the relationship and everything your partner has done. Realize that nobody is really expected to do anything in a relationship. People who do, usually does because they love the other person.

If you start thinking about the good things and act positively towards your partner and the relationship, it will be a mirror effect.

Both you and your partner will begin to learn to resolve the issues you may have and believe that a relationship can flourish when there is mutual understanding.

A lot of times, pride and ego are big contributors to the scarcity mindset.

In conclusion

Like with everything else, how you look at a relationship or how you look at romance affects how you behave in a relationship.

If you want a relationship where you are loved, where you can give love, where you grow and develop and change into someone more, someone who can genuinely be happy, then mindset is everything.

Changing your mindset, your approach to a relationship can mean the difference between lifelong happiness, or always never feeling like you’re satisfied.

We accept the love we think we deserve, so it’s up to you to know that you deserve more. It’s up to you to have your perfect relationship.

Do you have an abundance mindset?

Let me know in the comments!

If you’d like, you can read my previous article on what falling in love feels like.

You can also find more of my opinions in the advice corner.

I also write for Medium and a publication called P.S. I Love You.

Thank you so much for reading.

Love always,

Alex