Why you need a supportive partner | and that’s pretty much it

Whenever we look to find a significant other, I find that human beings have a really big tendency to overcomplicate things instead of just looking for a supportive partner.

That’s because it’s something that usually isn’t even really on our radar.

I mean, nobody just goes like “All I need is a supportive partner”.

Well maybe some people truly look for that, but it’s usually the result of having experienced a partner who was extremely unsupportive.

So here’s why it’s what I consider to be the most important thing.

Someone who believes in you

First and foremost, I think everyone needs someone who believes in them.

Someone who agrees with all the wildest dreams, and will dream with you.

Life is too short, it’s already hard sometimes to achieve our dreams, we don’t need to be dating obstacles and hurdles.

What I mean by that is, someone who, instead of building you up and helping you reach your dreams, they’re giving reasons why you shouldn’t go for it.

Now this may seem wild, because why would we even date someone who is like that.

That’s because they usually fall under the guise of being a supportive partner.

One that’s often grounded in reality.

While something like, “Have you thought this through? Maybe you should take a step back and talk with XYZ about it”, could be considered helpful, it’s also riddled with doubt and disbelief.

You have to attract the supportive partner

For clarification, I think there’s just one thing that can be misconstrued when it comes to this.

No partner should blindly support you if you don’t take accountability.

What do I mean by this?

I think the fine line is, are you someone other people, or even yourself, can believe in.

Because in order for someone to be willing to be a supportive partner and help you, it also takes accountability.

For example, if you’re actively working towards your dreams and aspirations, and you need someone to believe in you and stand by your side, then yes.

However, if you’re someone that just says something without taking action, then that’s a different story.

I think what really needs to be mixed in with this, is accountability and responsibility.

The perfect formula to have a good life

Now obviously humans aren’t variables or numbers, they’re people.

But is there a secret formula for this?

Honestly I think that with a supportive partner, along with your own dreams and aspirations, you can pretty much achieve anything you want.

The formula is basically hard work plus a little magic in my opinion.

Do you have, or are you a supportive partner?

Let me know in the comments!

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Thank you so much for reading.

Love always,

Alex